5 things you should never say
WHEN YOU'RE DIVORCED
Your entire world has just made a 180. You’ve spent weeks, wait, who am I kidding, months crying, you’ve moved, fallen back in love again and bid farewell to half of your group of friends. Getting a divorce is heavy sh*t. People are going to be saying all of the wrong things to you. But then again, there are a few things you shouldn’t be saying either.
Keep referring to him as ‘your ex’ around the kids
Obviously you would prefer to always refer to him as ‘that cheating son of a b’ and you even hate anything that rhymes with his actual name, but he is and will always be the father of your children. And you owe it to your kids to be respectful about their dad. You might feel a ton of rage but just remember, there was a time where you voluntarily mounted him to make a whole lot of babies. Tell everyone you know that he.
nailed your neighbor
How shocking the story may be and how therapeutic it can be to share it; don’t do it. It’ll make you look bad. Pick and chose only a couple of friends for the unedited version of the story and just give the rest an edited one where you still show a bit of love and respect for your ex. And when you’re on your own, feel free to bash him as much as you’d please.
Talk bad about your ex to your kids.
Telling them about how he hasn’t paid child support in over three months, but he has been booking five star hotels for him and his new half-his-age girlfriend. Don’t do it. I repeat: do not. Allow them to have a dad they can be proud of. And allow him to make a couple of mistakes in his life too. Everyone loses track of their lives at some point. But they’ll come around.
There was once a time when you thought he was amazing right.
? He’ll pick himself up. And if he doesn’t, then send over a lawyer. But hush hush around the kids okay.
An extensive review of your blossoming sex life I used to have a colleague who was a bit older than 45 who suddenly got a divorce and before I knew it, she has a new love interest who she was banging whenever and wherever. Very lovey dovey. She was covered in hickeys and looked emaciated thanks to her wild new sex life. I mean, I was happy for her and all, but was it elegant? Far from it.. Forbidding your kids to call him on ‘your’ day.
Your kids are not a possession. You raise them. And you can’t forbid them talking to their father. They probably went from seeing him every day to only seeing him every two weeks. Try walking a mile in their shoes. A friend of mine would always let her kids call their father and would even drop them off if they wanted to see him. Now that’s what I call class.
To finish this off with a quote from Emma Thompson from one of my favorite movies Love Actually: “.
No one is ever gonna shag you if you cry all the time “.” And that’s that. You are great, you can do it, maybe you’ll find your way back to each other, or you’ll meet someone new who is great. Either way, you get what you preach.” Your entire world has just made a 180. You’ve spent weeks, wait, who am I kidding, months crying, you’ve moved, fallen back in love again and bid farewell to half of your group of friends. 5 Things you should never say when you’re divorced: Amayzine.com. Dat dwing je af namelijk.
