LIVING TOGETHER DIARY 3
About not helping with renovations and that I really need to start saving
Small adjustments, big effect
Our “almost-house” is upside down. “But it has to become an incredible mess first to then make something really beautiful out of it,” I keep telling myself. I know that for sure, and camping a bit among the brushes and freshly plastered walls has its romantic side too. But I really can't stand rummaging through moving boxes with the flashlight of my phone in the early morning for that blue skirt I want to wear so badly. The light still needs to be fixed, and I've already moved some of my clothes to him, but the wardrobes haven't been delivered yet, hence some grumbling on my part.
But okay, I'm complaining and that's not fair, because I just came back from two days staying at my parents' and in the meantime, my boyfriend and father-in-law have been working hard. Now, I think they were also fine with me being a bit lazy, because then they could quietly tinker, order roti, and open a can of beer in the afternoon to toast to the TV cabinet that fit perfectly.
Upon my return, a lot had changed. It's so nice to see that just a different shelf in the shower and a new mirror on the wall give a completely new bathroom. But also in the kitchen: the white boring cabinets have been replaced by very simple IKEA shelves, which makes it a lot fresher, lighter, and cozier right away. Especially when all my thousand jars are placed on them. And a few new curtains already make such a huge difference. Now there's a different lamp above the table, making it a completely different dining room. You hear, everything is going in the right direction. The painting will start this week, and then I will take more charge.
Plop, the cork popped off the bottle again, because the debit cards ended up in the mailbox (we celebrate everything). Not that we've ever had fuss or discussions about money, sometimes one pays and then the other, and that always goes fine, but I still thought it was important to open a joint account. Especially now that we're making some larger purchases for the house, and then we can also keep our own money a bit more organized. We both deposit an amount monthly and pay with the and/or card when we buy something that is for both of us. And with that question, I've been pondering a few times. The Appie isn't so difficult, because groceries are always for us together. I keep seeing very sweet small amounts being deducted by Gamma (which is probably some screw) and that's how it should be, of course. But then I'm at Skins Cosmetics (the house is definitely not finished yet, but I'm already starting with the accessories) with two Diptyque candles in my hand and soap dispensers from Zenology, and then comes the question: do I pay for this myself or do I use the joint account? In principle, we both enjoy it, but he seriously stands on his chair when I tell him how ridiculously expensive those candles actually are, especially since these are things that can wait a bit. That leaking faucet and that baseboard in the corner need to be paid for first, of course. And I also found an incredibly soft throw at Zara Home that we actually don't need at all, but I was still at the checkout with it. There we are both under it, so you would say, we both pay. I still paid for it all with my own card. Now I just hope that I can deposit the monthly amount into the joint account later, because I just did another Net-A-Porter order for our joint closet. Oh, Inever learn...
