Are you ‘on’ to cheat?

These signs indicate it

When I was ten, I said that smoking was ‘suuuuuper gross’ and that I would never, ever do it later. And cheating? That was only for very mean people, you would absolutely NOT do that. Fourteen years later and I've done both. The first one still, by the way, but that's beside the point.

When I look at my friend group, almost everyone has peed outside the pot at least once. No, it's not nice, we figured that out too. But that's just how life sometimes goes. Maybe you didn't even want it, it wasn't even about the plain sex, but the desires took over. “A cheater is someone who wanders around dazed with an empty wine glass and then meets someone with a bottle of Chardonnay,” our Marion Pauw once wrote in the post ‘When you fall in love with someone else’. I find it mandatory reading.

Despite the fact that you are crazy about your partner, there are situations and periods when you simply feel more ‘on’ to push the boundaries. When do you find yourself in the danger zone?

When your age ends in a nine

No, I didn't come up with it either, but 19, 29, 39, and 49 seem to be risk ages when it comes to cheating. You emotionally enter a new phase, reach a milestone, and feel incredibly ‘on’ when it comes to getting everything out of it.

You flirt

Not even so much consciously, or well, maybe you do. You are more often found in the pub, your wall goes down, you look around and catch men's glances everywhere. You haven't felt this kind of attention in so long... Just a bit of seeking out the excitement and flirting can't be that bad? (At this point, your bestie is screaming in your ear: “Girlfriend, you are ‘ON’, get out of this tent!”)

When you notice that you start lying to your partner

Look, little white lies for the best intentions (“But those boots were super cheap in the sale!”) are part of life. But if you notice that you are lying more easily about bigger things, then the chance is high that you are about to become unfaithful.

You look around and catch men's glances everywhere

You are bored

After a number of years together, the fire seems to have gone out. While you don't want that at all. In fact: you fantasize a lot about sex. But not with your partner...

You are spending more and more time with friends

You are also making a lot of new contacts lately. Without your partner. When you come home, he sometimes asks who you were with again and if you are being a bit careful. Actually, you just get annoyed that he is suddenly so protective.

Answered three or more of the five with ‘yes’? I'm telling you, girl: you are totally on. Maybe you should honestly ask yourself if this is still your relationship. If this makes you happy in the long run. And if you are even happy now. Then you might as well end the relationship so you have free play, right?

Situation 2: You absolutely do not want to cheat and also do not understand where your strange cat-like behavior comes from? Ooooh, then you are just in a rut. Well, then it's time to a: avoid those pubs like the plague and b: especially invest more in your sex life. Shall I give you some inspo? No thanks, you're welcome.

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