Scientifically proven: ending a relationship this way is the least painful
Breaking up with someone is anything but fun. Because although the end is near when your own heart is broken, when you have to crush someone else's heart, you still feel pretty lousy about it.
Not to mention the awkwardness of such a situation. However, according to science, there is a best way to deliver the painful message to your Mr. Not so perfect after all.
And that is: be honest and direct. Don’t beat around the bush. And definitely don’t start with excuses. It is indeed that other person’s fault, so don’t say it isn’t and don’t soften the blow by stammering that you can still see each other. That it will be okay with you, someday. Or that you can still spend a night together tonight. sleep.
Or that you will have dinner at his mother’s one more time. No. It’s over. Finito is finito. People appreciate that.
You can best start your story with the sentence: ‘I think we need to talk.’ This prepares the other person for what’s about to happen. Then don’t ramble too much about this and that, but just say briefly and firmly that it’s over for you, the feeling, no matter how rotten you think it is. Don’t start about vague doubts and your beautiful past and how much you dread that you will be alone again. were single No. When you put an end to it, it’s a period and not a comma. So don’t waffle, but drop a ready-made message and then close the door behind you. It may seem a bit harsh, but this is actually comforting for the broken party. In the long run, it helps the other person to get over it faster. This way, everything is just quickly clear and no false hope is given.
Of course, you can text later about how you will handle the division of belongings, but it’s better to wait a day or so. Give your ex a breather. Just remember that the overall break-up shouldn’t drag on. So don’t come by every week to pick up a few sweaters and shirts, only to come back the next week to gather your sports bag and toiletries. And don’t you dare call ‘to check HOW IT’S GOING’. No. Out of sight, out of mind, so especially don’t see each other too much. Let it go. Let it goooo.
We didn’t say it would be fun to do. But in the end, it’s the best for all parties, believe us. Good luck, girls. And then enjoy a glass of wine at the pub. You’ve earned it.
FACTS
- The most common issues that lead to a break-up?
- Having expectations and being disappointed
- Not discussing the boundaries of cheating
- Not accepting each other’s family
- Wanting to change each other
Psst. Don’t immediately remove your ex on Facebook.
