Fun & Famous

WHY HAVING SEX WITH YOUR EX IS A GOOD IDEA

And don't say you've never done that yourself. Goodbye sex (or whatever you want to call it) counts too. But if you want to stay friends with him, it can sometimes make things a bit more complicated. Can you help but keep jumping into bed with your old flame? Research shows it's perfectly okay, you know. And now all together: phew.

The University of Arizona asked a group of 137 divorced couples how many of them still occasionally end up between the sheets with their former hubby and wifey after the divorce papers were signed. 82.51% indicated they still had contact with their ex, and nearly one-fifth said they still went to bed with their ex.

Whether that helped them get over their relationship depended on how ‘ready’ they were to move on. In the case of a divorce, it turned out that intimate contact with the ex reduced the pain of separation. And those who had long accepted the break-up found that sex with your ex is really not as emotionally damaging as everyone always thinks.

“So uh, dear ex of mine...”

Psychologists believe that the need for intimacy and attachment after a break-up goes unfulfilled, and that sex with your ex provides a sense of safety and also meets some of those needs. But of course, it remains tricky. Just see it this way: sometimes you need to go back a little to move forward again (are you still with me?), and by revisiting a previous relationship, it sometimes becomes clear that you have always idealized that relationship unfairly. And then, POOF: hello closure.

Just make sure it's a simple trip (or multiple) down memory lane for both sides. Don't give the other person false hope that things will ever be good again, and voilà; you can have a nice time together again. As long as he this never does it in bed.

So uh, dear ex of mine... No, just kidding.