5 moments when I'm glad to be single
The moments when it's not always that fun to be alone, we all know them. Or well, all singles know them. Christmas, New Year's (that terrible twelve o'clock moment), Valentine's Day... Those kinds of ‘standard’ things. Now it's especially annoying that those events are quite close together, because then you often get confronted with being single, while I generally don't have much trouble with it. On the contrary, I can think of quite a few situations where I'm really happy about it. And if you put all the pros and cons side by side, those hallelujah-love-the-single-life moments might actually count heavier too. You really have to come from a good home if I want to give up all those little moments.
1. When you come home from vacation
This was for me the most recent moment when I thought; heavenly, just alone. I came home from vacation, including jet lag, to an empty house. Well, that sounds quite sad, but it was everything I needed. Not someone who bombards you with questions about how it was (because just leave me alone, I'm tired after 17 hours of flying), no one complaining that your unpacked suitcase is in the way, no one expecting you to be fit and ready for the day. Just. Completely. Nothing. Okay, it would have been nice if someone had catered to my needs without saying a word, but that's not really realistic. And the delivery guy from Thuisbezorgd came the closest. Five stars for him.
2. Waking up with a hangover
And especially if you also have a morning mood, huh. Well, I'm not into one night stands (#braveharry), but a girlfriend of mine recently picked someone up from a not to be named dodgy place. Good-looking guy, but waking up... You really prefer to do that alone, right? Sure, if you have a relationship, you don't get tired of each other that quickly or want someone to get out of your bed, but with age, the hangovers also get worse and I really prefer to deal with them alone right now.
3. At all events of family members you don't know
Birthdays. Aunts. Grandmas. Grandpas. Cousins. Weddings. Baby showers. Birth visits. Stop it already. If you are blessed with an in-law family that is really only fun and doesn't have a single rotten apple in it: cherish that. But even then, I can't imagine that you willingly sacrifice that free Saturday afternoon. To drive to that one aunt in Groningen for a piece of cake with a cup of tea. Or that you spend a whole weekend for a wedding of a niece from Gorinchem. Even worse: having to take a weekday off.
4. No silly jealousy or arguments
This varies from person to person, but I get insecure quite quickly and that manifests itself in really ugly jealousy. Sometimes that jealousy is justified too, and that's actually even worse because it reinforces my jealousy. Such a waste of your energy. And of your evening. I spend the whole evening worrying that my love is talking to another girl (while he was quite a loyal dog), completely forgetting to make myself happy. And then I get grumpy and that love doesn't bring a very pleasant girl home. Silly arguments, irritations, and jealousies, I really don't miss that. Not even from myself.
5. Just doing what you want
Aaah, this sounds so deliciously selfish. But it's true, right? Of course, you have to take your fellow human beings into account from time to time, but generally, you can just decide what you do. If you want to have breakfast with a croquette sandwich, just do it. No partner looking at you weirdly. Staying home for an evening, fine, deciding at one o'clock at night to go out, fine, watching eight and thirty episodes of Netflix in a row, all prrrrrima. I wonder if I will eventually be a nice girlfriend for someone when I read this. But maybe that's also where it goes wrong: if you find the one you can do all this with, then you're set. Until then, I'll stay happily alone..
