Beware of this toxic dating trend: the Frozen Pizza Theory
Finding true love seems to be getting harder by the day in this generation. Toxic dating trends are raining down, and as a young single in her twenties, I can relate. How it all started with micro-cheating, men-imizing and ghostlighting there's a new variant added to the assortment. And I must honestly admit: this is one that we all secretly feel a bit guilty about. I introduce, from me to you: the Frozen Pizza Theory.
It sounds like a four-year-old came up with it, but there is indeed a valid story behind this phenomenon. The Frozen Pizza Theory suggests that when you date someone who takes advantage of you, they see you as a frozen pizza: you've been lying there for months, and when they feel too lazy and don't want to make an effort, they take you out. A case of ‘lack of something better.’.
Think of it as a kind of metaphor for someone who isn't really in love with you. They enjoy your company when it suits them, but they are far from willing to take the time and effort needed for a serious relationship. But let's be honest: there's a good chance you also have a few frozen pizzas in the freezer that you know: if I have nothing else, I can always grab one of those. They give you that little bit of dopamine you're looking for and will still find you nice, no matter how much time passes.
@becccamoooreget. out. of the freezer. NOW!!!! run!!♬ original sound – Becca Moore
But to keep you grounded: the chance that you are someone's pizza in the freezer is also high. And I guess you want to get rid of that image quickly, so I advise you to change this as soon as possible. After all, you have it in your hands whether you want to be treated as a second option that is only ‘nice’ to have at two in the morning after a night out.
Setting boundaries is very important for this reason. Determine for yourself what behavior you find acceptable and unacceptable and communicate this. Use ‘I’ statements to express how you feel about certain behavior without immediately placing the blame on the other. Make sure you stick to your own set boundaries in the future. Suppose — because the chance is high — that the other calls you again after too many drinks and you decide to go along with it, then it becomes harder to be taken seriously.
Long story short: get out of that freezer. Make sure you become a fresh pizza from the stone oven with endless toppings for someone who craves it at any moment of the day.
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