The 9 things you should never say to your partner if you want your relationship to succeed
A guarantee of a long and happy life with your partner is of course never certain, but fortunately, you do have some control over it. For example, if you continue to treat each other with respect, communicate well, and appreciate one another, that is already a great start. But still, you can say or do certain things in arguments that can seriously damage your relationship..
These are, for example, the nine statements that psychologist Jeanette Fegan claims are detrimental to your relationship, but unfortunately, there is a good chance you have heard them before. I hope it was during a previous relationship and not during your current one.
1. ‘You are overreacting’
Even worse: ‘You are overreacting again, as always.’ Instead of dismissing someone else's feelings, it's better to listen to what they have to say and then talk about it together.
2. ‘This is more important to you than to me’
By saying this, you provoke a defensive attitude in the other person, and you also fail to take their feelings seriously — a dangerous combination.
3. ‘You never listen’
In any relationship in your life, you should avoid the words ‘always’ and ‘never’., simply because it is not true: nothing happens ‘always’ or ‘never’, and it always sounds extremely attacking.
4. ‘You are being ridiculous’
Again, not taking someone else's feelings seriously and criticizing them is extremely hurtful.
5. ‘This is just like before/that one time...’
Bringing up old issues? Just don't.
6. ‘I told you so?’
Yes, and the other person knows that too. There's no need to rub it in.
7. ‘You are really a [insult]’
I think an explanation is unnecessary, but insulting your partner is never a good idea, no matter how angry you are.
8. ‘Why can't you be more like [example]?’
If you want to make your partner insecure and ensure that he/she builds a wall around themselves, you should definitely say this. Otherwise, it's better not to.
9. ‘If you do this/not do this, I will leave you’
Blackmail is never justifiable in any relationship.
Source: iNews
