If you do this, you can be sure that you are best friends for life
Yes, then you know for sure. If you do this, you can be sure that you are best friends for life. It has nothing to do with meeting often, or frequently texting and calling. Quite the opposite.
If you are real besties, you don't need to see each other three times a week anymore. Maybe you could when you were younger, but as you get older, that week fills up quickly. Padel lesson, kids to soccer and hockey, your job, parents‘ evening at school, birthday of this and that, a quick visit to the in-laws and boom, we're back in October. And you miss your real girlfriends because yes, those years when you had all the time for each other were so cozy. Always busy with each other and out together. That's usually not the case anymore when you're over thirty. Still, I discover something beautiful in my dear, close friendships that are for life. It's not about ’how often we do this and that'. Yes, we both want to go away for a weekend together again, or have a night out, or a day of shopping. But it just doesn't fit into our schedules with young children, and that's okay.
Because friendship is about more. It's about feeling good after seeing the other person. That you recharge from someone and that someone gives you energy. Joy, that feeling. It's hard to explain, but if you have a nice girlfriend, you understand me. Getting a boost from each other's company. You hear yourself chatting and laughing, you come alive, you're that woman from before again. You're still there. Buried under everyday busyness, but you are still there. That bond is so strong, it never fades. And busy lives, they can exist, that's how it goes. So sometimes it takes a month again before you drink a glass of wine together. But when you're together, and you laugh hard again? Roaring with laughter? Choking on your own jokes? That's the best sign. Then that friendship lasts forever.
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