So Nicole Kidman is right after all
An orgasm depression really exists
If there's one thing we can't stop talking about, it's Babygirl. Whether it's a feminist pamphlet or not, how amazing Halina Reijn is, but especially about the orgasms of Nicole Kidman (by the way, have you seen the Perfect Couple as well). Kidman reached climax so often and intensely during filming that she, as she told the New York Times, at one point had an orgasm burnout.
Never coming again
“There were moments during filming when I thought: I don't want to come anymore. Don't come near me. I hate this. I don't care if I'm never touched again in my life! I'm done with it.”
The orgasm burnout
Orgasm burnout quickly became known as orgasm depression in common parlance, and it really exists. It even has a medical term: PCD or Post Coital Dysphoria. This is not even a rare phenomenon: 46% of women will experience it at some point and 41% of men.
A sex depression
Crying, irritation, guilt, depression, emptiness, anxiety or panic attacks. Some people don't want to be touched after sex, want to be alone, or even leave. If someone has PCD, there will be no talking, kissing, or cuddling after sex.
What’s the reason?
- Hormones: Sex creates a peak of hormones like oxytocin and dopamine. After peaks come troughs – we all know that.
- Reality: After orgasm, reality, such as a bad relationship, can hit you hard.
- Depressive tendency: A gloomy personality can make sex not necessarily feel joyful.
- Trauma: Unpleasant sexual experiences from the past can resurface after an orgasm.
During the filming of Babygirl, an intimacy coordinator was present, as is often customary in series and films nowadays, to safeguard the boundaries of the actors. So I assume that Nicole Kidman was well supported in this process.
But if you struggle with negative feelings after your orgasm, it can help to name it. Maybe not immediately with your partner, but first with someone you feel safe with. Writing it down can also be a first step. If that doesn't help, it's certainly wise to seek help from a therapist.
