This oral sex position is a fan-favourite and we understand why
In the world of sex, there are a lot of positions you can do. The standard missionary, coloring outside the lines with a cowgirl or going all out for toys and a Kamasutra treatment. Yes, anything goes, including something that doesn't involve penetration at all. Face sitting is currently the hype and honestly? That makes a lot of sense. It's easy, pleasurable, and anyone can do it. Now, you shouldn't just sit on the face of your next flame, because that's, uh, not the intention. So pay close attention: this is how you go from being cautious to a new favorite position.
First of all: what is face sitting?
Not a new workout trick where you try to train your abs by just not sitting on your partner's face. You really don't want to experience such a dangerous fiasco during a hot night. No, it resembles position 69, but from one side. Your partner sits with their knees around your head. While they hold themselves up by resting their arms on your stomach, you have all the space to do anything. You can lick, kiss, bite: the possibilities are actually endless. Since you're lying down, you can even use your fingers to stroke from behind or do other things between the legs.
Whether you are the lying or the top partner: this position has something for everyone. Although the focus is on the person being orally satisfied, that person can also satisfy the other with their hands. But hey: it's really all about the other person now. And the best part of this position is that you can just switch it around. Then you, then the other.
Why it's so popular
You might already guess this: because you are the main character. Sex is just like a team sport. You both try equally hard to reach a climax, but sometimes you just want to be in the spotlight. This position is perfect for that and also something different than lying with your legs wide open while the other does all the work. Because you have to hold yourself up, you create more tension. That might sound like you're exercising, but believe me: because you exert yourself more, you can ultimately reach orgasm more powerfully. And all that extra tension naturally leads to an even more exciting evening.
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Besides all that tension, face sitting is much more intimate than when your partner is lying on the bed and you are working from a meter and a half away with your face down. It's not corona times anymore, right? You can have contact. In fact: we recommend it. This oral feast is the remedy for a quick deed. You look each other in the eye and really take your time for each other. It's not a one-two-three job, but a real moment of enjoyment. Oh, and not unimportant: it's easy. Just think of those days when you don't even have the energy to take the laundry out of the dryer. For face sitting, you don't need to perform an acrobatic show. Especially at times when you don't feel like a lot of fuss, this is ideal. You just sit down and get to work. Sounds ideal, right? At least, if you ask me.
How to face sit
Face sitting doesn't have to be done only like position 69. There are plenty of ways to make it more enjoyable orally. Forget the rules and just sit on each other's faces. Really. Don't know where to start? Then you can use these tips as your face sitting guide.
1. Sit back and relax
This isn't the sexiest tip, but if you want to do it right, you need some technique. You really can't just shove your butt in someone's face. If you do it backwards, like in position 69, it's important to support yourself well with your arms. If you go for the more fun front variant, it's important to lean back well and not crush anyone. Make sure your legs are well beside your lover's head and support yourself on your arms. This way, you feel like you can let go of control and really enjoy, while your partner doesn't suffocate under your weight.
2. Really give up control
If you, as a true perfectionist, are constantly trying to direct the way, you won't enjoy it optimally. Let the person underneath take the lead. Isn't it much more fun if you don't know exactly what that tongue is going to do? This way, you get surprised and it only gets better. Are you the lying person? Then you can take the lead, of course with consent. Surprise the other and go wild.
3. Use a helping hand
This position may be a fan favorite, but everything gets boring eventually. As the giver (a.k.a. the lying party), don't be afraid to call in a lifeline. Feel free to grab that vibrator. Your lips can't always be in third gear. By working together with toys and lubricant, you make it even hotter. It gives you many more options to vary. For example, use a vibrator during oral sex or combine licking, fingering, and clitoral stimulation. Don't be afraid of toys. They are not competitors, but team players.
So yes: just get out of that missionary mode and try something new. This is really about putting each other in the spotlight.
